Letting Go and Trusting Life

Cherie De Asis
Mar 26, 2017
2 min read

It took me awhile to completely understand what it really means to let go. When I love something or someone, I give my best. I commit and dedicate myself wholeheartedly. But as I go through life, I’ve realized that I can only do my best, and if my best isn’t enough anymore, I have to let go. It’s a tough process because I’ve always believed that love conquers all. When you love something or someone, you have to fight for it. But when fighting for love means hurting yourself at the same time, It becomes destructive and unworthy.

After recent painful experiences in my life, I’ve finally learned what it really means to Let Go. Here's what I've realized and learned:

1. Know your Core Values and Beliefs

What do you value most in life? Do you want to be happy? Do you want to stick around in a

situation even if it’s hurting you? If a situation no longer agrees with your core values and

beliefs, you have to learn to let go. It will hurt you in the long process. You have to

recognize when to stop and realize what the circumstance is teaching you. Life

experiences are meant to teach us, not to hurt us.

2. Learn to Accept

Cease whining against your current circumstances. If it’s causing you too much pain, it’s

time to move on. Accept it. No more excuses and make beliefs that everything will be fixed. You cannot control life. But you can shape your circumstances by your thoughts. Most of

the time, our suffering is an effect of wrong thoughts. Everyone wants to be happy but not everyone makes a conscious effort to find joy in life. It’s simply making happy thoughts,

leaving a situation that’s no longer serving your purpose and pursuing things that you

love.

3. Take time to Heal

Healing is a process. You can’t cry the whole night, sleep and expect the next day you’ve

recovered. When we have attached ourselves especially with someone, you’ve invested

much time and effort. You’ve built and shared your life with the person. And suddenly,

the next day, you wake up and you are all by yourself. Realize that it’s going to be a long

and tough process. Everything’s going to be okay in the end.

4. Forgive yourself

The person who broke your heart won’t be able to heal you. But you can mend your heart

by forgiving yourself. It’s okay to make mistakes. Don’t be harsh on yourself. Your

mistakes make you who you are. Sometimes, we have to make mistakes to learn. And by